Why do we expect other people to understand us…to understand our experience and our point of view? We can get pretty whipped up when others make hurtful, uniformed comments and judgments. You just don’t understand, we lament. Well of course not. How could they?
Other people just don’t know. They’ve been conditioned the way they’ve been conditioned and they are who they are…just like you. They haven’t had the same experiences, they haven’t lived your life. And ditto for you.
Some of us want to learn and understand better. Let’s be kind to each other. Others aren’t interested. How about we let them be? Don’t fold your worthiness into their comments or perspective. Release your attachment to their approval and their understanding. That expectation will kill you. It will make you crazy. Your judgment of them ends up being a prison you build for yourself.
Listen, I feel good when I am understood. It’s a good feeling when another nods their head and says….I hear you. I think that’s what we really want…to be heard. We want what we have to say to matter. And sometimes, with some people, that’s possible. With others, not so much.
All of this leads me to say…you have to be satisfied with yourself, regardless if anyone else understands you or not. Travel to the beat of your own drum. And be happy all the while.
Much love
Paula
